| You say…… |
Vicki says…… |
| “My mock exam results were awful, I’m a failure” |
“There is a big difference between being perfect and being a failure and it’s unlikely you have failed in every area of the test. Have a chat to your teacher and ask where your weak points are so you can concentrate on improving them next time.” |
| “I hate my boobs, thighs, skin, hair….” |
“OK, this list can go on forever and that’s why it’s important to understand that none of us are perfect … even that girl that you see in the corridor who looks like she has it all, will stress over something! So rather than focusing on the 1% of you that you do not like, turn your attention to the 99% that you do like and then focus on showing off these areas of your body to their full potential.” |
| “I feel like people are always talking about me” |
“Just because someone whispers when you walk past does not mean you are at the heart of their conversation. So, rather than second guess what others may be saying, join in the chat or ask them what’s on their minds. Chances are you were wrong and there really was nothing to be worried about.” |
| “Boys always fancy my friend … I’ll never get a boyfriend” |
“If your vocabulary consists of the words ‘never’ or ‘always’ you are starting to form a negative thinking pattern. Change that sentence to ‘Ok this time I didn’t get the boy, but there will be other opportunities’. You’ll be surprised how a positive outlook can change the way you feel and the way others see you too!” |
| “What if my period starts in school, I’d be so embarrassed!” |
“Living in a world of ‘what ifs’ must be exhausting. Stop worrying about things that have not yet happened and most likely never will. It’s ok to consider different scenarios, but look at them positively, by saying ‘I can cope if this happens I just have to be prepared’ and have faith in your ability to manage any situations that life throws at you.” |
Jayne says … “Wow you did great in the Art exam”
You say…”yeah but I suck at PE” |
“Recognise that we can’t all be great at everything. Don’t play down your achievements when people say well done, by telling them what you’re not good at. Learn to take a compliment and compliment others when they have done well too!“ |
| “I should have spoken up in class now I’ve missed my chance” |
“You can’t change the past so look to the future and get into the habit of saying to yourself, ‘It would have been great if I had answered that question, I’ll make sure I put my hand up next time.’ By adopting this attitude you are accepting that new opportunities are just around the corner ready to be seized.” |