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QGR887
4/12/2025 2:55:55 PM
Hiya Vikki, my best friend who is a male used to give me cheek kisses but then stopped after so long cause he felt hurt with the thought that he should be doing that with his future partner instead of a friend he cares for. Thats why we stopped a very long h if we did once (over 1 minute). He used to send lots of heart emojis and Id also send a few back and Id check its friendship way, and he also stopped that for the same reason, which is fine. I think he matured and realised its not good for his future to do that. Whereas at the time I let him and have him a cheek kiss back cause I thought were both single and so theres no problem- although I did bring up once to him would it affect the future, we would stop if he dated someone obviously, but still for his future is it best not to but he said he sees no issue so I thought okay thats fine. Now we both realise best not to anyway cause its more of a couple thing and can complicate the future (we wouldve stopped anyway if we dated someone wed never do h that). This was all a friendship thing anyway when I asked him and he agreed - cause at the time I said Id never get into a relationship cause Im not mentally ready and said everything affectionate I do with is friendship affection only. A few times, not in a sexual way he pecked me a kiss on the neck - now this was last year when he stopped alongside everything else. Do you think it was affection cause I read online its not something friends normally do. Some online say its affection others say attraction.
Now should I ask him if the neck kiss was lust - I hope not otherwise Id feel like a friends with benefits kind of person even though we never did anything sexual together. He wouldnt like me to discuss the past because it hurts him too much, we sorted it out but I forgot to ask him why he kissed my neck.
I think by asking him its going to ruin our friendship but maybe thats better than me feeling curious and unanswered. Do you think its worth asking?
I think I asked before and he said hes not looking for a relationship and hes doing in friendship affectionate way when I asked? Cant remember. What would be your best advice plz?.
Also Im scared that when I get into a future relationship now (I thought I never would but changing my mind recently) Im scared hed be in our group still and my partner doesnt know about the long hug one time / him kissing my cheek is notbing but the neck kiss - is this important for my future partner to know?
Show Answer
A peck on the cheek is nothing more that a friendly gesture from one friend to another and has no romantic connotations, so try not to worry about this, or what happens in the future, if new partners know you have been friends previously.
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