GOY827

2/21/2025 12:51:17 PM

Hi Vicki, (Sorry for the long message) I have decided I never want kids in my life. So I have been researching permanent sterilisation. The nhs website says that you can get it from the age of 18 but Ive read from anecdotes, that people have struggled to get one late into their 40s - saying theyre too young to know and that they will change their minds! The factors for me not wanting to experience pregnancy, childbirth and parenthood are never going to change. When I go to a sexual health centre, I will be 21. (Long waiting lists) I will ask for the contraceptive implant first as apparently, they will ask you try LARCs first before considering female sterilisation. I understand why they ask but it annoys me. I will also ask about a bilateral salpingectomy while at the appointment. I doubt they will take me seriously but thats also understandable as they do not know me personally. If I (likely) get rejected for sterilisation, what can I do to advocate for myself in the future? You may question why I would prefer to get a bilateral salpingectomy rather than my long term boyfriend (who also does not want children) to get a vasectomy. It is because I want peace of mind over my own body. It is mine, so I should have control over it as much as a 18 year old woman who is pregnant and wants children. There is also the factor of cost. In his country, it would cost lots of money, for me it would be free on the nhs. Thank you for taking the time to read my long message, from Luna. I wasnt sure where else to ask this sort of question. Youve helped me with my questions a lot as a teen! So thank you for all your work :)

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Hi, permanent contraception methods are a huge decision for anyone to make, and I understand why if there are no specific medical reasons that would risk your life, or day to day well-being, why many doctors would query if you are too young to take this big step.

For anyone that takes this step a consultation is always given, regardless of age. Understanding what this means for your future and your partners is very important. So if you are serious about this book and appointment and share your reasons with a medical professional and be guided by them, and until then also consider the different types of contraception that will prevent unwanted pregnancies and are less permanent like the implant.

BMO152

2/21/2025 12:48:02 PM

I am probably too old to be here but to be honest don't have anyone to talk about it to so.... I've been with my girlfriend 7 years. The other night we were going on a night out and she kind of just made me feel very self conscious about my boob's saying they look tiny today.... when I mentioned it to her she was like I didn't realise what I said sorry it was supposed to be a joke not hurt you. Then the whole night she was getting so much attention off other girls and I don't know the fact she gave them it back made me feel quite upset and like she can't be trusted on a might out where I'm not there because who's to say she wouldn't take it further if I am not there. Additionally when we got home she refused to even have any form of intimacy such as kissing because I was too drunk but I knew what I was saying and knew that I wanted her to kiss me but she was claiming it isn't consent and to me kissing isn't quite the same as me asking her to have sex with me? Any advice am I over thinking?

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Hi, yes you may be overthinking this situation, but if that is the case then you have a valid reason to have an honest chat with your GF about how you both truly feel and if it matches what you both want from a relationship at this time. Trust is important and I am sure she will want you to feel confident and secure in your relationship with her, or she may have ideas on how you can both work on this going forward. But please understand that even the best and closest of couples can admire others, it does not mean they are looking to cheat.

LPE364

2/20/2025 7:38:19 PM

Hello Vicki - Would you say it is ok to be the model for a friends life drawing class that she runs after school? They are finding it difficult to find a younger model and they say it would be nice to draw someone a bit younger. I would have to stay very still or it's not allowed but I find the idea a bit exciting really. I know I have a beautiful body and am not worried about showing it however would people think I was being rude as it is a mixed class? Also some students often take photos as it is easier to draw from them later and I'm not certain I would like that. I am sixteen and a half. Theresa. x.

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Hi Theresa, whilst you are legally old enough to make up your own mind about this session that your friend runs, by asking me the question it seems you are a little apprehensive about it all, and for me when these feelings happen it's the bodies way of asking us to rethink the situation. Have a chat to your parents and ask them to speak to your friend, life models do not have to show their naked bodies off and I am sure you can request no phones are allowed in to take photos, if you do decide to go ahead.

OJR462

2/20/2025 6:28:57 PM

Hi vicki! I got my period when i was 15 (nearly 16) and got a pretty regular period after my first, some months heavier than others, im 17 now but i havent had a period in 5 months, is this normal? Ive heard its normal to miss a few when you are a teen but i havent even had any brown discharge:/

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If you have missed 5 periods and have otherwise been regular for most of your menstrual life, yes I would have a chat to your doctor, obviously to rule out pregnancy if you have been sexually active, but also to discuss any forms of contraception you may be on, as this too can delay or stop a period.

FGU522

2/19/2025 12:55:39 PM

I have my disco this Saturday and my period came today and I normally have a period for a week it started today which is wendsday so. It will be the 4 th day on Saturday do you think it would be heavy

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Everyone's periods are different, but I would hope by Saturday your period will be lighter and even if it's not it should not prevent you from having fun at the disco, and with so many absorbencies available you will be protected no matter what your flow. Have a fabulous time.

XYU664

2/18/2025 9:37:41 PM

Tell me my bra size

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Hi, please send over your measurements and I will do my best to give you a guide to your bra size.

UOB036

2/18/2025 4:41:34 PM

My breasts are usually a D or DD cup size. But after I got out the shower this morning and I put on my sports bra type crop top, I know this sounds weird but my breasts genuinely felt massive and as someone with wide spaced breasts when I looked in the mirror I had kind of a cleavage line. Why would my breasts have gone up like two cup sizes to get that much cleavage

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Hi, breasts are very sensitive to temperature and often when they are warm they can appear fuller in size...and likewise when they are cold they can appear smaller in size.

GNH746

2/18/2025 2:19:17 PM

Hi Vicki what she do you recommend I should start shaving?

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This really is a personal choice for you to make and for your parents or the person who cares for you. Firstly, I do have to say, that shaving is not something you have to do, and many girls prefer to leave body hair just as it is. However, if you feel you may want to remove underarm, leg, or even a little pubic hair and are under the age of 16 it's worth speaking to your family to gauge there views on this.

If you do decide to remove any body hair by shaving be sure to follow the rules below:

1. Warm the area either in the bath or shower or using a flannel.
2. Use lots of shower gel or hair conditioner.
3. Using a clean razor, glide in the direction of hair growth ONCE.
4. Then glide against the direction of hair growth ONCE.
5. Rinse well.
6. When out of the shower or bath, pat the area dry and apply Vaseline to help reduce razor burns.

Finally exfoliate twice a week with an exfoliating mitt to avoid ingrown hairs.

KRD264

2/17/2025 9:28:06 PM

Hi vicki! Just a bit concerned, i got my first period in Early 2023 when i was 15, since then i've only had 1 or 2 othet periods that ive needed to use products for, some months i would just get brown discharge (which ive been told still counted as a period)- however ive not have anything at all (no blood or brown discharge) since September 2024. I am 17 and turning 18 soon, and im just a bit worried something is wrong with me, everyone else seems to have had their period for years already.

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Lots of people have very light periods that require maybe a pant liner to help capture the flow and the fluid released is brown in colour and not red. However, if you are not on any form of hormonal contraception, that can often reduce or stop periods, then I really would suggest you to have a chat to your doctor who will be able to advise you further.

MNV880

2/17/2025 10:39:24 AM

my boyfriend told me since staying with me means he won't be carrying on his slavic traditions his whole family is going to be so disappointed in him, because of me. what do I do. I feel so horrible

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I feel this is quite a burden your BF is placing on you, after all what he chooses to do with his life is his choice to make, not yours. So be honest and let him know you feel his comments are unfair and he has a choice to make, I am sure you are not preventing him from keeping up his family traditions and I am sure you can also learn more about them to support him. You simply need to make it clear you are not to blame, because there is no blame needed to be placed on anyone.