UST106

5/3/2024 1:54:38 AM

i've liked a guy for over a year i thiiink and i jst wanted advice on how to get over him. when i first liked him, he was nice, but from the start of this year, he literally insults my friends and is honestly a total d*ck. for some weird reason i still like him and maybe its because i made up a version of him in my head, but anyway i'd really like some advice <3 thxx

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I wonder if this boy is struggling with puberty, which can often lead to males feeling angry, and aloof. Is he different when he's on his own, it may be that he is trying to fit in and struggling with his emotions, just like girls do. So why not wait a few months and see how things go and if you hear or see him do something insensitive, call him out and let him know it's just not appropriate.

BHN438

5/2/2024 7:44:54 PM

Hi AXA438 . I also really didnt want the exam to be this summer- I have exams coming up and getting my music practice in is hard and I struggle to use my time effectively. We cant cancel the exam and I do try and practice hard but its difficult to juggle revision, music and home life. I am working hard but Im scared of failing the exam because I dont want to re do it and I also hate failing in general - my year 6 teacher kind of instilled into our class that we were never good enough could always be better and that failure is bad, Vicki I dont know what to do or what my question actually is it just feels like I need to tell someone. If you da have any tips they would be welcome but if not no worries

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Hi, I do appreciate how revising for exams can be stressful which is why I created a number of blogs to help students out. (they are below). Remember in life all you can ever do is your best, often this is more than enough to reach your goals, but if it's not and you do not do as well as you would have hoped, then that is fine too, just as long as you know you did your best.

Top school revision tips (becomingateen.co.uk)

Top tips to beat school exam stress (becomingateen.co.uk)

AXA438

5/2/2024 7:41:26 PM

Hi Vicki I play an instrument and have an exam coming up soon and my mum has said that our school sports day might be that day and she could try and get me there but no promises. Im in yr 7 so this would be my first sports day at a new school but we cant cancel the exam. I get that the rumour might not be true but I dont want to miss it but I dont want to arrive late either. Any advice because for some reason its really worrying me. Thanks

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This is a tricky one, is there anyway your mum could call the school to find out for sure the date of sports day, once you have the full information you can then decide how to proceed. Either miss part of sports day, or see if you can reschedule the music exam.

VPS244

5/2/2024 3:46:51 PM

Hello Vicki!. So I will get to the point. I'm a (16F). My parents are always fighting,ranging from harmless fights to breaking things around and pushing eachother while shouting at eachother face. Normally I stay nearby but not directly looking at the fight as to act of something serious happens. Until now,my uncle always gets in and resolves the problem. Things quiet down a while and they be like normal with eachother like nothing happened and these times are so peaceful that I forget that yet they will fight again and again. They are now giving eachother the cold shoulder while saying nasty comments about eachother. It hurts me so bad but I have to stay strong for my little sis. The main problem I want to ask for help with is the badmouthing. My mama(and sometimes my papa too but I'm mostly with my mum the whole day so not as often,i don't open talks with him that much)sometimes talks trash about my papa. Saying that he is stingy and not generous. Our money situation is not okay and my father lost his job so he can't bring out much. Anyway,I donttttt like when she or he talks bad about the other . When I ask them to stop they Don't respect my wishes and continues which leads to me defending the other and then they blame me for taking the other side. But I just can't stand it . I myself am not okay. I'm so sick and tired of this and every day I'm afraid of what might happen next. I love them both but I am also afraid and sad about this.

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I am sorry to hear this family tension is making you feel so unhappy. Why not have a chat to your uncle, letting him know how you feel, he can then speak to your parents and ask them to be mindful in front of you and your sister.

Also try to remember that some people can get into a negative cycle of talking, it doesn't mean they don't have feelings for someone, it's just simply become a habit to be a little bit negative, this is maybe what is happening to your mum.

EOC336

5/1/2024 11:04:03 PM

Hey Vikki - Will have to censor the question probably sorry. I put my finger into my vagina because I hear you have to get tested for cervical cancer at a certain age so I wondered if its be painful if the doctor inserted the swab into my vagina, especially since I have never had my hymen broken. So I slowly inserted my finger just to test out how uncomfortable it was - i felt discomfort so I stopped but then watery blood came out. I peed myself twice today by mistake but now my bladder is fine luckily but now Im on my period. Does breaking your hymen cause you to start your period?

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Hi, firstly you do not 'break' a hymen this is a myth, it's basically a piece of skin that partially covers the entrance to the vagina, and which can be stretched if something is inserted in it. This watery blood is just where this stretching took place and nothing you need worry about.

UFV761

5/1/2024 10:16:00 PM

How do I cope with not having a period

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Good morning, periods can arrive between the ages of 8-18, so please don't compare your journey through puberty with those around you, we are all different and periods arrive only when our bodies are ready.

CTN406

5/1/2024 6:43:52 PM

How do you know when it is the right time to get a bra

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Hi, great question. If you can see your new developing breasts through your clothing, if they feel tender or bounce when doing PE or any other activity, it's probably time for a bra.

GYW044

5/1/2024 3:03:24 PM

Hi Vicki I have a boy in my class let's call him Sam Sam has a gf but has been feeling/touching my legs in history I like Sam but I feel like I'm in a bad situation and don't know what to do we're both 14 in yr9 but his gf is 15 in yr 10

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Hi, you really have to ask yourself this question...how would you feel if you were dating Sam and he was touching another girl's let in class...pretty upset I think. 

So next time he does it move his hand away and tell him to stop, let him know you know he's dating and it's not appropriate.

QGK100

5/1/2024 8:47:46 AM

Vicki, how do I get blood out of my bed sheets, I've bled in the night and I dont want my mom to see.

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Hi, this happens and I am sure your mom will be fine with it and not upset at all. My top tips - always wash the stain in COLD water first to stop it staining. Then rub in a little washing detergent and then just place in the washing machine as usual.

NHR288

5/1/2024 8:45:16 AM

What day of your period is supposed to be the heaviest mine is on day 3 every time, is this normal??

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Hi, this can vary from person to person. Once a period has started to become regular, for may days 2-3 are the heaviest, but as we are all unique this can vary.